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Baby Come Back

A memoir by a mother whose child prepares for college



MOTHER NATURE, AS THE NAME IMPLIES, IS UNPREDICTABLE. She gives you an amazing miracle in the form of the sweetest baby the world has ever seen. In the first instant of that little life, your heart opens wide and your child crawls inside and takes up residence there. Minutes, hours, years go by. He/she thrums away in your heart, coloring your every move, every decision and every emotion. You get used to that thrumming; it becomes part of you. You watch all your child’s firsts with love and pride-filled eyes. You don’t react with the terror that grips you when they take their first tumble; instead, you smile, suppress the urge to lunge for them, and encourage them to get up and go on their way. And because they didn’t see the fear in your heart, they do just that; get up and go on their way. That’s only one of the many times you do that for them, but it pales in comparison to what is required when they go away to college.

As long as they are in the house, underfoot, you feel their place in your heart is still fully occupied. You don’t think twice as you enthusiastically jump into the car and drive hundreds of miles to walk campus after campus to help your child find the right school. You hold your thoughts inside, size him/her up out of the corner of your eye and hope that on the long drive home, they give you some inkling of their thoughts. All the while, they are still with you. They still need you to buy milk, help them sort out a problem with a teacher, and sometimes they might even want to watch a movie with you.

Then, the colleges are chosen, the applications are mailed off, and the acceptance letters come in. Before you know it, you’re writing out the check that assures your child’s admittance into the college of their choice. You shop for clothes. You buy special linens to fit the dorm-room bed, and you  imagine the proud day when you’ll drive them to school to get settled into their new life.

And this is when Mother Nature plays her dirty trick.

Being the brave mother you are, you wave goodbye, and not looking back, drive home to a place you don’t recognize. Everything is where it was but there’s a quiet you’ve never experienced before. You and the family dog stand and stare at the now clean room that until a few days ago was a smelly sty so dense with teenage detritus you couldn’t even enter. And you remember your child sitting in the midst, happily ensconced in the cacophony of video game monsters being killed, rock music, and IM dings from the computer.

This new quiet is positively deafening.

Dear old Mother Nature doesn’t prepare you for the cold, harsh emptiness of the empty nest. Your child is still thrumming away in your heart but there’s nothing for you to do. You try and turn your mind away, but thoughts of them keep creeping back in. Will they remember to brush their teeth, do their laundry, or even at least once, change those specially bought sheets? Mother Nature gives them to you and then, just like that, takes them away. You spend their entire existence holding on to them for dear life and now you’re supposed to let them go? It’s impossible. Yet, as you stand disoriented in the middle of your new old home, it finally hits you; letting them go is probably the biggest gesture of love you’ll ever make. Now you just have to figure
out how to quiet the thrumming in your heart.

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Dads will get a sweet treat of their very own with FREE admission on Father’s Day, June 18th to the Stepping Stones Museum for Children.  The museum recognizes that...

Cost: cost varies

Where:
Stepping Stones Museum
303 West Avenue
Norwalk, CT  06850
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Sponsor: Stepping Stones Museum for Children
Telephone: 203-899-0606
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From vows taken in magnificent settings, to cutting edge images that will redefine rituals and boundaries, this exhibition will feature six up-and-coming as well as award-winning photographers that...

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Come enjoy one of Fairfield County's longest running Fairs with amusement rides, Touch-A-Boat, New Canaan Psychic, Face Painting, Sand Art, Suzuki School of Music Performance, Westport Urgent...

Cost: Free admission. Pay-one-price unlimited rides wristbands available every day.

Where:
Westport Woman's Club
44 Imperial Avenue
Westport, CT
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Red Bee Apiary’s “Talk, Tour, and Honey Tastings" are  opportunities for you to visit a working apiary and experience honey at...

Cost: $35 per person

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Red Bee Honey Apiary & Gardens
Weston, CT  06829


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Come enjoy one of Fairfield County's longest running Fairs with amusement rides, International Food Court, Face Painting, Sand Art, Take-A-Chance Drawing, Bake Sale, Raffle and Curio Cottage...

Cost: Free

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Westport Woman's Club
44 Imperial Avenue
Westport, CT
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Director Donna McLaughlin Wyant, an award-winning TV writer and producer, brings her production expertise to The 39 Steps once again – reprising her successful Darien Arts Center production...

Cost: $25 per person; senior citizens, 65 years of age or older, and students $23

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT
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Students preparing for finals in the area are welcome to study at Grace Farms, which has quiet tables in the Library, communal space in the Commons, cornhole for study breaks, and basketball in the...

Cost: Free

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Grace Farms
365 Lukes Wood Road
New Canaan, CT  06840
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The 39 Steps, a comedy, takes the stage at Westport Community Theatre with performances from June 9 through 25. Donna McLaughlin Wyant directs the WCT production, with an outstanding local...

Cost: Tickets are $25, $23 for seniors and students,

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110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT  06880
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Cost: $25 per person; senior citizens, 65 years of age or older, and students $23

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Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
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Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
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Cost: free

Where:
Maritime Garage Gallery
11 North Water Street
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WHAT: Hospice of Westchester (HOW) invites members of the community to participate in their 15th Annual Golf Invitational at Westchester Hills Golf Club in White Plains. Proceeds from the event...

Cost: $425.00

Where:
Westchester Hills Golf Club
401 Ridgeway
White Plains, NY  10605
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Sponsor: Hospice of Westchester
Telephone: 914-682-1484
Contact Name: Holly Benedict
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From vows taken in magnificent settings, to cutting edge images that will redefine rituals and boundaries, this exhibition will feature six up-and-coming as well as award-winning photographers that...

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Where:
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Director Donna McLaughlin Wyant, an award-winning TV writer and producer, brings her production expertise to The 39 Steps once again – reprising her successful Darien Arts Center production...

Cost: $25 per person; senior citizens, 65 years of age or older, and students $23

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110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT
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Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT  06880
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Cost: free

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Maritime Garage Gallery
11 North Water Street
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Cost: $25 per person; senior citizens, 65 years of age or older, and students $23

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT
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Cost: Tickets are $25, $23 for seniors and students,

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT  06880
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Cost: free

Where:
Maritime Garage Gallery
11 North Water Street
Norwalk, CT  06854
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Sponsor: Norwalk Parking Authority
Telephone: 203-831-9063
Contact Name: Maritime Garage Gallery
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Held on the beautiful grounds of the Wilton Historical Society, members will gather on Thursday, June 22 at 6:00 for the Annual Meeting and an Old-fashioned Potluck Dinner. President of the Board,...

Cost: Free for members

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Wilton Historical Society
224 Danbury Road/Route 7
Wilton, CT
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Cost: $50.00 ($45.00 for Aquarium members)

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Maritime Aquarium
10 North Water Street
Norwalk, CT
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Cost: $15, $24, $32, $40

Where:
Caramoor Center for Music and the Arts
149 Girdle Ridge Road
Katonah, NY  10536
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Director Donna McLaughlin Wyant, an award-winning TV writer and producer, brings her production expertise to The 39 Steps once again – reprising her successful Darien Arts Center production...

Cost: $25 per person; senior citizens, 65 years of age or older, and students $23

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT
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Website »

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The 39 Steps, a comedy, takes the stage at Westport Community Theatre with performances from June 9 through 25. Donna McLaughlin Wyant directs the WCT production, with an outstanding local...

Cost: Tickets are $25, $23 for seniors and students,

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT  06880
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“From A Student Perspective” presents selected art from about 20 students from NCC’s Studio Arts, Graphic Design and Architecture Department. The work is in a variety of media...

Cost: free

Where:
Maritime Garage Gallery
11 North Water Street
Norwalk, CT  06854
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Sponsor: Norwalk Parking Authority
Telephone: 203-831-9063
Contact Name: Maritime Garage Gallery
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Experience the joy of setting sail and shutting off the engine as we sail through Long Island Sound. Sit back and relax or take a turn at the helm, the choice is yours. Sails depart from...

Cost: $40/adults, $20 for children ages 5-12

Where:
Cove Island Park
1281 Cove Rd
Stamford, CT  06902
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If variety is the spice of life, then this evening’s program promises to be particularly piquante. Cellist Edward Arron offers another of his popular chamber music concerts joined by his...

Cost: $15, $24, $32, $40 / Free tickets for students 18 and under!

Where:
Caramoor Center for Music and the Arts
149 Girdle Ridge Road
Katonah, NY  10536
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Director Donna McLaughlin Wyant, an award-winning TV writer and producer, brings her production expertise to The 39 Steps once again – reprising her successful Darien Arts Center production...

Cost: $25 per person; senior citizens, 65 years of age or older, and students $23

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT
View map »


Website »

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The 39 Steps, a comedy, takes the stage at Westport Community Theatre with performances from June 9 through 25. Donna McLaughlin Wyant directs the WCT production, with an outstanding local...

Cost: Tickets are $25, $23 for seniors and students,

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT  06880
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Website »

More information

“From A Student Perspective” presents selected art from about 20 students from NCC’s Studio Arts, Graphic Design and Architecture Department. The work is in a variety of media...

Cost: free

Where:
Maritime Garage Gallery
11 North Water Street
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Sponsor: Norwalk Parking Authority
Telephone: 203-831-9063
Contact Name: Maritime Garage Gallery
Website »

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Experience the joy of setting sail and shutting off the engine as we sail through Long Island Sound. Sit back and relax or take a turn at the helm, the choice is yours. Sails depart from...

Cost: $40/adults, $20 for children ages 5-12

Where:
Cove Island Park
1281 Cove Rd
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  Registration is open for the 11th annual Swim Across America Greenwich-Stamford Swim, taking place Saturday, June 24, 2017, in Long Island Sound on the border of Greenwich and Stamford at...

Cost: Fundraiser

Where:
ACGT
96 Cummings Point Road
Stamford, CT  06902
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Sponsor: Swim Across America
Telephone: 203-570-9195
Contact Name: Michele Graham
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Hosted with the support of The Center for Contemporary Printmaking, Stepping Stones Museum, Mathews Mansion Museum and The Norwalk Parks Department, this Art Festival will be a premier cultural...

Cost: Free

Where:
Mathews Park
295 West Ave,
Norwalk, CT
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The annual American Roots Music Festival offers a day full of folk, country, bluegrass, gospel, blues, singer/songwriter, string band, old time, and everything in between. Multiple award winning...

Cost: $30, $40, $50, $60, $70, $80, $90 / Day Only $25

Where:
Caramoor Center for Music and the Arts
149 Girdle Ridge Road
Katonah, NY  10536
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Grace Farms invites you to spend the day learning how to practice sustainability through education and hands on interaction with local businesses and not-for-profits in the community. The program...

Cost: $10.00 – $25.00

Where:
Grace Farms
365 Lukes Wood Road
New Canaan, CT  06840
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Grace Farms Foundation invites you to learn about local food sourcing and how individuals can make an impact on the environment through three workshops focused on edible and medicinal plants,...

Cost: $10-15

Where:
Grace Farms
365 Luke Wood Road
New Canaan, CT  06840
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Sponsor: Grace Farms Foundation
Telephone: (203) 920-1702
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Grace Farms Foundation invites you to learn about local food sourcing and how individuals can make an impact on the environment through three workshops focused on edible and medicinal plants,...

Cost: $10.00 - $15.00

Where:
Grace Farms
365 Lukes Wood Road
New Canaan, CT
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Learn how to turn leaves, grass clippings and kitchen waste into rich, crumbly soil that you can use to grow healthy vegetables and flowers. Your backyard compost pile will help you: Send less...

Cost: Free. Registration is required at danburylibrary.org under Events

Where:
Danbury Library
170 Main Street
Danbury, CT
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From vows taken in magnificent settings, to cutting edge images that will redefine rituals and boundaries, this exhibition will feature six up-and-coming as well as award-winning photographers that...

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Where:
, LA


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Join us for a wine tasting featuring a selection of Vivanco wines. Including Vivanco Rioja Blanco, Vivianco Rosato, Vivianco Rioja Crianza and Vivianco Rioja Reserva. At LQR MKT in Norwalk.

Cost: Free

Where:
Norwalk
360 Connecticut Avenue
Norwalk, CT  06854
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Celebrating the first annual gala event to support new cultural programs and inspiring performances at the Darien Arts Center.  Cocktails, hors d'oeuvres, and live entertainment. The...

Cost: $75 per ticket

Where:
DAC Weatherstone Studio & Garden
2 Renshaw Road
Darien, CT  06820
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Director Donna McLaughlin Wyant, an award-winning TV writer and producer, brings her production expertise to The 39 Steps once again – reprising her successful Darien Arts Center production...

Cost: $25 per person; senior citizens, 65 years of age or older, and students $23

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT
View map »


Website »

More information

The 39 Steps, a comedy, takes the stage at Westport Community Theatre with performances from June 9 through 25. Donna McLaughlin Wyant directs the WCT production, with an outstanding local...

Cost: Tickets are $25, $23 for seniors and students,

Where:
Westport Community Theatre
110 Myrtle Avenue
Westport, CT  06880
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Website »

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A rainbow of colors dart and dash in our new 3,000-gallon Coral Reef exhibit, open now just past the Sea Turtles exhibit. Meet more than 40 species of reef fish native to the Indo-Pacific,...

Where:
Maritime Aquarium
10 Water St.
Norwalk, CT
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Experience the joy of setting sail and shutting off the engine as we sail through Long Island Sound. Sit back and relax or take a turn at the helm, the choice is yours. Sails depart from...

Cost: $40/adults, $20 for children ages 5-12

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