How We Met: It’s a Small Web
Finding love with online dating
Lori Bran is fond of saying you can find anything you want on the Internet. And what she wanted was a good-looking Jewish doctor! Not that she was all that particular when she first signed up for jdate.com, a site for Jewish singles. She just wanted to meet someone who shared her values and traditions. But after finding that she didn’t have anything in common with the first round of dates, she thought: Why not be more specific?
And that was probably Eric’s first clue that the fun-loving young woman he decided to meet had a good sense of humor and was definitely not afraid to color outside the lines. An avid sailor and scuba diver, Eric, an optometrist working in New York City, was focused on finding someone who shared his love for the outdoors. He couldn’t believe his good luck when Lori’s profile page listed her interests as both.
What Eric didn’t yet know is that this energetic young woman was more willing than able when it came to athletics. “I just figured that I didn’t ‘dislike’ those activities and would be happy to try them, so why not check them off?” says Lori. “If someone was that intent on meeting a sailor, I could learn to sail!”
Eric now laughs about it saying he thought he was meeting an “outdoorsy athletic type,” but instead he met an enthusiastic learner who is willing to try anything.
“I think he might find my complete and utter lack of athleticism somewhat endearing,” says Lori. “He’s very proud of being the one to teach me to ride a bike.”
Their first date was a meet up at a popular bar called Onieal’s in Hoboken, New Jersey, equidistance from both of their apartments. It was the coldest night of the year and Lori’s friends couldn’t believe she was braving the frigid walk to meet an Internet date. Later, Eric walked Lori home in the biting cold, even though her apartment was in the opposite direction. “My first impression was that he is very good looking and taller than me! That was a huge plus,” says Lori, who was immediately attracted to Eric’s easy-going nature.
Lori also loves Eric’s romantic side and the surprises he plans for her. And she likes how witty he is, but most importantly she likes his willingness to put up with her.
“Ditto,” says Eric who was attracted to the fact that Lori is an engaging conversationalist. “We had a lot in common—we are both very independent, but better together as a team.”
In spite of the family joke that Lori is not terribly athletic, she actually loves spending her time outdoors. Luckily, Lori says, Eric didn’t mind that she wasn’t an accomplished diver, but she was more than willing to improve which led to a lot of fun adventures together including diving in Hawaii, Grand Cayman, and Mexico.
Not long after they began dating, Eric became a partner at Ridgefield Family Eye Care. After six months of dating, Lori joined him and they married in 2005. The couple has two children. Eric is a coach for SCOR and competes in TriRidgefield. Lori, a counselor at Ridgefield High School, has participated in the Night of One Acts at the Ridgefield Theater Barn. “We got lucky,” says Lori. “We are similar in all the important things, but different enough to keep things interesting.”