How we Met: The Staring Girl
Trieste only had eyes for Rick
Photo by Scott Mullin
Trieste Matte thought she was being subtle when she zeroed in on her future husband. “I got off an airplane with my colleagues and we were waiting for a limo when I spotted this guy who was so cute. I couldn’t take my eyes off of him,” she says.
Along with a few other Boston-based new hires, Trieste was about to begin a two-month training course in Joliet, Illinois, with CSC, a technology-solutions company. It was her first job after college and normally being somewhat of a romantic, Trieste vowed to instead focus on her exciting career.
But darn, that guy was so good-looking she just couldn’t peel her eyes away. And then, in a light-bulb moment, she thought, he too was standing with a group of young people no doubt awaiting a ride. What if they were all going to the same place? So Trieste boldly introduced herself.
In the meantime, Rick Matte was definitely going to the same place. Also employed by CSC, but in its New York office, he was assigned to the same project as Trieste. Rick’s group of nine was going to have a hard time squeezing into one limo, so Trieste maneuvered the two groups to share their rides, giving each more balanced space while giving her a chance to be with Rick.
Once training began, Trieste still couldn’t stop staring. She situated her desk to have a direct view of Rick’s and continually peeked over her laptop to see what he was doing. Her screen saver was a group photo of all the trainees: Trieste Photoshopped a heart around him.
For Rick, it was hard not to notice the “staring girl” and was initially wary. But he soon realized that she was smitten. He was flattered. For Trieste, the more she got to know Rick, the more impressed she became. She appreciated how he “could work the room,” was nice to everyone and quickly garnered their respect. Though Trieste thought she was being discreet, Rick says, “She definitely got the staring award. She had the hawk eye!”
After long nights of coding, they soon became friends and while Trieste still had romantic inclinations, it was their growing friendship she treasured. It wasn’t until the group took a break on Lake Michigan that there was a shift in their relationship. It was a long climb down to the beach where they relaxed with a bonfire. Soon the two found themselves alone, talking into the night. When Rick leaned over and kissed Trieste, she thought, Ok, I guess he’s not dating anyone!
As their training ended, Trieste wrote a heartfelt letter to Rick describing her strong feelings. Rick calls it a very “emotional moment” and the point when he decided they should “officially” date.
During a visit to family in Ridgefield, Trieste hopped a train for a first date she describes as straight out of a romantic movie. It was December, a winter wonderland in New York City with Christmas lights twinkling, snow falling, and a visit to FAO Schwartz. Later in the evening, Trieste met Rick’s brother whose first comment was, “Oh, you’re the staring girl!”
Two years later on October 25, 2003, the couple married. Rick laughs when he says, “We went from staring to coding to kids—five of them!” Does Trieste still stare at her husband? “Of course,” she says. “Look at him—he’s so cute!”