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06/18/10Not Your DecisionLarry Ackerman is the president and founder of The Identity Circle, a consulting firm that helps organizations perform better and individuals find the happiness they deserve. Find the answer to questions ranging from boyfriends to self-value. |
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06/09/10Making ChoicesTeenage Two-Step My 15-year-old daughter can’t seem to get herself ready for school. I get anxious and have to help, since she isn’t able to do it on her own. Then she gets angry at me for interfering—she says I don’t trust her—and we wind up fighting. Sometimes, she’s late to school. How can I get her to see she needs my help? Growing up is hard to do—for mothers as well as daughters. Kids your daughter’s age (you were once one of them!) need lots of room to develop a healthy sense of independence, while still knowing you’re there for them. In fact, the most loving gift you can give your daughter is the room she needs to do things on her own, like prepping for school. Unfortunately, the two of you are now engaged in a version of... |
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06/09/10Friendly TerritoryMoney Matters Do you have any suggestions on how we should treat friends socially who are currently out of work? When we want to go out to dinner, I feel awkward inviting them, since they can’t afford to spend the money. In the same vein, does it put too much pressure on them, if we invite their kids to our son’s birthday party, as it means buying a gift? First, I recommend you take a course in Friends 101. Not to diminish the importance of your questions, but the idea of true friends—assuming these people are true friends—goes well beyond what they can, or can’t afford to pay for, at the moment. If they are truly friends, then, make it easy on both of you. Invite them over for dinner and lift the burden entirely. Hanging out is surely more... |
