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Ten Minutes With Betsy Prioleau

Author of the newly released Swoon



Betsy Prioleau is author of Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them as well as Seductress and Circle of Eros (do you see a pattern?). She taught cultural history at New York University before moving to Pound Ridge. We talked about the great seducers of past and present.

Does society need ladies men? Yes, women crave ladies men. We are in a romantic slump. The promise of a sexual revolution—of sexual parity—didn’t pan out. Men stopped being suitors.

What’s the most surprising thing readers will learn from Swoon?  Seducers are not satanic rakes. Real seducers want women to love them. They’re not just interested in having a woman for the night.

You talk about Duc de Richelieu—two women dueled with pistols for him. What’s his secret?  One of the most charming men in all of France. Sexually precocious. Fabulous conversationalist, flirt. He adored women. He never bored them and could ruin them with a smile. Constantly turned on by women—and was a great comic.

What do all seducers have in common? Tastes fluctuate, but there are constants. They really, really love women. They have fabulous sexual charisma—an innate electricity that radiates from them. I don’t know if you can acquire that. They practice love as an art.

What advice do you have for women in spotting a seducer?  If a man is genuinely attuned to you, you are four steps ahead. Many men are not 100 percent present—they’re more interested in business or sports than women. Great seducers are wholly focused. Fabulous conversationalists. And great listeners, bringing the best out in women.

When you go to Bedford parties, can you—do you—categorize men into your different seducer categories?  Oh, sure. Once you have your antennae up, you can definitely spot them. And I talk to other women who say the same thing. These men make you feel like you’re the only person in the room. They will appreciate what you are wearing.

Anyone local come to mind?  Bill Clinton is a perfect example. When you shake his hand, for that moment you are the only person he is interested in. It’s extremely flattering. It’s quite erotic.

How does sex come into play?  It’s centrally related. These men are closer to the horn-dog than the ho-hum end of the sexual spectrum. They love women and women’s bodies. They are also very interested in pleasing them. 

What can men learn from the book?  The heart of manhood is to please women. Men get their skills from porn, locker rooms, and other men. There is no education in love. Men could profit—women could profit—from re-enchanting relationships. Ladies men have the potential to make men better and not resort to this silly pickup advice. —Geoffrey Morris

 

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October 2018

Taconic Opera celebrate its 21thseason with another exciting event in October, bringing together two of the most popular one-act operas ever composed:  Giacomo Puccini’s Gianna Schicchi...

Cost: $32-$67; $7 senior discounts; $15 students all seats; family of 4 (any age) $85

Where:
Yorktown Stage
1974 Commerce St
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Sponsor: Taconic Opera
Telephone: 855-886-7372
Contact Name: Dan Montez
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Cost: 30.00

Where:
Rogers Park Middle School
21 Memorial Drive
Danbury`, CT  06810
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Sponsor: Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation
Telephone: 203-501-7424
Contact Name: Wendy Ann Mitchell
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Cost: Free

Where:
Canfin Gallery
39 Main Street
Tarrytown, NY  10591
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Sponsor: 1953
Telephone: 914-332-4554
Contact Name: Jean-Claude Canfin
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On August 18, 2018, the Bruce Museum will open A Continuous Thread: Navajo Weaving Traditions. This exhibition will trace the history of the Navajo weaving tradition from the earliest...

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Cost: Free

Where:
Bedford Hills Community House
74 Main Street
Bedford Hills, NY  10507
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Sponsor: Bedford 2020
Telephone: 914-302-7300
Contact Name: Lauren
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Cost: 30.00

Where:
Rogers Park Middle School
21 Memorial Drive
Danbury`, CT  06810
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Sponsor: Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation
Telephone: 203-501-7424
Contact Name: Wendy Ann Mitchell
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On August 18, 2018, the Bruce Museum will open A Continuous Thread: Navajo Weaving Traditions. This exhibition will trace the history of the Navajo weaving tradition from the earliest...

Where:
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Where:
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21 Memorial Drive
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Contact Name: Wendy Ann Mitchell
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Cost: Varies

Where:
Chappaqua Performing Arts Center
580 Bedford Road
Chappaqua, NY  10514
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Sponsor: The Mental Health Association of Westchester
Telephone: 914-265-7511
Contact Name: Connie Moustakas
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Cost: Free

Where:
Keeler Library
276 Titicus Road
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Sponsor: Keeler Library
Telephone: 914-669-5161
Contact Name: Carolyn Reznick
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Cost: 30.00

Where:
Rogers Park Middle School
21 Memorial Drive
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Sponsor: Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation
Telephone: 203-501-7424
Contact Name: Wendy Ann Mitchell
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Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Dr
Greenwich, CT  06830
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Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Telephone: 203-413-6735
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Cost: Free for Museum members and visitors with paid admission

Where:
Bruce Museum
One Museum Drive
Greenwich, CT  06830
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Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Telephone: 203-505-9897
Contact Name: Scott Smith
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Cost: Free

Where:
Ruth Keeler Memorial Library
276 Titicus Road
North Salem, NY  10560
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Sponsor: Keeler Library
Telephone: 914-669-5161
Contact Name: Carolyn Reznick
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Cost: Free

Where:
Ruth Keeler Memorial Library
276 Titicus Road
North Salem, NY  10560
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Sponsor: Keeler Library
Telephone: 914-669-5161
Contact Name: Carolyn Reznick
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Cost: Free

Where:
Ruth Keeler Memorial Library
276 Titicus Road
North Salem, NY  10560
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Cost: 20.00

Where:
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608 Old Post Road
Bedford, NY  10506
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Sponsor: Bedford Historical Society
Telephone: 914-234-9751
Contact Name: Sophia Bernier
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Cost: Free

Where:
Westchester Community College
75 Grasslands Road
Gateway Center
Valhalla, NY  10595
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Sponsor: The Garden Conservancy
Telephone: 845-424-6500
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Tickets are on sale now for The Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation's presentation of Christmas Bingo: It's a Ho-Ho-Holy Night, an interactive, hilarious comedy about a...

Cost: 30.00

Where:
Rogers Park Middle School
21 Memorial Drive
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Sponsor: Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation
Telephone: 203-501-7424
Contact Name: Wendy Ann Mitchell
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Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Dr
Greenwich, CT  06830
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Sponsor: Bruce Museum
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Cost: $40

Where:
Church of the Assumption
131 Union Avenue
Peekskill, NY  10566
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Telephone: 914-737-8872
Contact Name: Mary Mancini

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Tickets are on sale now for The Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation's presentation of Christmas Bingo: It's a Ho-Ho-Holy Night, an interactive, hilarious comedy about a...

Cost: 30.00

Where:
Rogers Park Middle School
21 Memorial Drive
Danbury`, CT  06810
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Sponsor: Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation
Telephone: 203-501-7424
Contact Name: Wendy Ann Mitchell
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On August 18, 2018, the Bruce Museum will open A Continuous Thread: Navajo Weaving Traditions. This exhibition will trace the history of the Navajo weaving tradition from the earliest...

Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Dr
Greenwich, CT  06830
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Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Telephone: 203-413-6735
Contact Name: Scott Smith
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Cost: Free

Where:
Ruth Keeler Memorial Library
276 Titicus Road
North Salem, NY  10560
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Sponsor: Keeler Library
Telephone: 914-669-5161
Contact Name: Carolyn Reznick
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Cost: $25, $40 Free tickets for students 18 and under!

Where:
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149 Girdle Ridge Rd
Katonah, NY  10536
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Sponsor: Caramoor Center for Music and the Arts
Telephone: 914-232-1252
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Tickets are on sale now for The Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation's presentation of Christmas Bingo: It's a Ho-Ho-Holy Night, an interactive, hilarious comedy about a...

Cost: 30.00

Where:
Rogers Park Middle School
21 Memorial Drive
Danbury`, CT  06810
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Sponsor: Greater Danbury Irish Cultural Foundation
Telephone: 203-501-7424
Contact Name: Wendy Ann Mitchell
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Cost: 0

Where:
Take it or Leave it Shed
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Sponsor: Energize Bedford
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On August 18, 2018, the Bruce Museum will open A Continuous Thread: Navajo Weaving Traditions. This exhibition will trace the history of the Navajo weaving tradition from the earliest...

Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Dr
Greenwich, CT  06830
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Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Telephone: 203-413-6735
Contact Name: Scott Smith
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