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Ten Minutes With Betsy Prioleau

Author of the newly released Swoon



Betsy Prioleau is author of Swoon: Great Seducers and Why Women Love Them as well as Seductress and Circle of Eros (do you see a pattern?). She taught cultural history at New York University before moving to Pound Ridge. We talked about the great seducers of past and present.

Does society need ladies men? Yes, women crave ladies men. We are in a romantic slump. The promise of a sexual revolution—of sexual parity—didn’t pan out. Men stopped being suitors.

What’s the most surprising thing readers will learn from Swoon?  Seducers are not satanic rakes. Real seducers want women to love them. They’re not just interested in having a woman for the night.

You talk about Duc de Richelieu—two women dueled with pistols for him. What’s his secret?  One of the most charming men in all of France. Sexually precocious. Fabulous conversationalist, flirt. He adored women. He never bored them and could ruin them with a smile. Constantly turned on by women—and was a great comic.

What do all seducers have in common? Tastes fluctuate, but there are constants. They really, really love women. They have fabulous sexual charisma—an innate electricity that radiates from them. I don’t know if you can acquire that. They practice love as an art.

What advice do you have for women in spotting a seducer?  If a man is genuinely attuned to you, you are four steps ahead. Many men are not 100 percent present—they’re more interested in business or sports than women. Great seducers are wholly focused. Fabulous conversationalists. And great listeners, bringing the best out in women.

When you go to Bedford parties, can you—do you—categorize men into your different seducer categories?  Oh, sure. Once you have your antennae up, you can definitely spot them. And I talk to other women who say the same thing. These men make you feel like you’re the only person in the room. They will appreciate what you are wearing.

Anyone local come to mind?  Bill Clinton is a perfect example. When you shake his hand, for that moment you are the only person he is interested in. It’s extremely flattering. It’s quite erotic.

How does sex come into play?  It’s centrally related. These men are closer to the horn-dog than the ho-hum end of the sexual spectrum. They love women and women’s bodies. They are also very interested in pleasing them. 

What can men learn from the book?  The heart of manhood is to please women. Men get their skills from porn, locker rooms, and other men. There is no education in love. Men could profit—women could profit—from re-enchanting relationships. Ladies men have the potential to make men better and not resort to this silly pickup advice. —Geoffrey Morris

 

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March 2017

The Katonah Poetry Series continues its 50th Anniversary Season with a reading by Westchester native Kimiko Hahn. Born in Mt. Kisco, raised in Pleasantville, Hahn is the author of nine poetry...

Cost: $10; students free

Where:
Katonah Village Library
26 Bedford Road
Katonah, NY  10536
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Sponsor: Katonah Poetry Series
Telephone: 914-271-1062
Contact Name: Julie Nord
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This year we feature 38 engaging, thought-provoking, and entertaining films—a robust mix of documentaries and narratives, along with all eight episodes of False Flag, one of the latest...

Cost: Varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY
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In what is believed to be a first for Westchester theatre, this is a festival celebrating women playwrights and directors with eight original one-act plays. Glass Ceiling Breakers offers a...

Cost: $25 general admission, $20 seniors and students

Where:
Axial Theatre at St. John’s Episcopal Church
8 Sunnyside Avenue
Pleasantville, NY
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Telephone: 914 286-7680
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Last Days of Pangea: In the Footsteps of Dinosaurs November 19, 2016 - July 16, 2017 Image: Cast skull of Postosuchus, one of the largest carnivorous reptiles during the late Triassic, 200...

Cost: $7 adult, $6 Senior/student, under 5 and member free

Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Drive
Greenwich, CT  06878
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Sponsor: Bruce Museum
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Clay Art Center Spring Youth Classes 2017 Spin It! Spring 2017 Youth Classes start March 26 at the Clay Art Center in Port Chester and run for 6 weeks. Build your inner artist while creating...

Cost: $120-$180

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
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Sponsor: Clay Art Center
Telephone: 914-937-2047
Contact Name: Nancy Yates
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The 2017 Westchester Jewish Film Festival opens on March 16 and runs through April 2 at the Jacob Burns Film Center in Pleasantville. this year's festival features 38 films, both documentary...

Cost: varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY  10570
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Sponsor: AJC Westchester/Fairfield and others
Telephone: 914-773-7663424
Contact Name: Abby Popper
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This exhibit examines the 19th-century origins of this traditionally African-American congregation, as well as Antioch's growth, people, music, and ministries over its long and vibrant history...

Cost: Free

Where:
Bedford Hills Train Station
Depot Plaza
Bedford Hills, NY  10507
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Sponsor: Bedford Hills Historical Museum
Telephone: 914-806-2518
Contact Name: Ellen Cohen, Elin Peterson
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This year we feature 38 engaging, thought-provoking, and entertaining films—a robust mix of documentaries and narratives, along with all eight episodes of False Flag, one of the latest...

Cost: Varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Website »

More information

In what is believed to be a first for Westchester theatre, this is a festival celebrating women playwrights and directors with eight original one-act plays. Glass Ceiling Breakers offers a...

Cost: $25 general admission, $20 seniors and students

Where:
Axial Theatre at St. John’s Episcopal Church
8 Sunnyside Avenue
Pleasantville, NY
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Telephone: 914 286-7680
Website »

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Clay Art Center Spring Youth Classes 2017 Spin It! Spring 2017 Youth Classes start March 26 at the Clay Art Center in Port Chester and run for 6 weeks. Build your inner artist while creating...

Cost: $120-$180

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
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Sponsor: Clay Art Center
Telephone: 914-937-2047
Contact Name: Nancy Yates
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The 2017 Westchester Jewish Film Festival opens on March 16 and runs through April 2 at the Jacob Burns Film Center in Pleasantville. this year's festival features 38 films, both documentary...

Cost: varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY  10570
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Sponsor: AJC Westchester/Fairfield and others
Telephone: 914-773-7663424
Contact Name: Abby Popper
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Patrick Raftery, Librarian for the Westchester County Historical Society, will present an overview of our county’s history that begins with the county’s occupation by Native Americans,...

Cost: Free

Where:
Pound Ridge Library
271 Westchester Avenue
Pound Ridge, NY  10576
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Sponsor: Pound Ridge Library
Telephone: 914-764-5085
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This year we feature 38 engaging, thought-provoking, and entertaining films—a robust mix of documentaries and narratives, along with all eight episodes of False Flag, one of the latest...

Cost: Varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Website »

More information

In what is believed to be a first for Westchester theatre, this is a festival celebrating women playwrights and directors with eight original one-act plays. Glass Ceiling Breakers offers a...

Cost: $25 general admission, $20 seniors and students

Where:
Axial Theatre at St. John’s Episcopal Church
8 Sunnyside Avenue
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Telephone: 914 286-7680
Website »

More information

Last Days of Pangea: In the Footsteps of Dinosaurs November 19, 2016 - July 16, 2017 Image: Cast skull of Postosuchus, one of the largest carnivorous reptiles during the late Triassic, 200...

Cost: $7 adult, $6 Senior/student, under 5 and member free

Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Drive
Greenwich, CT  06878
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Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Website »

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Clay Art Center Spring Youth Classes 2017 Spin It! Spring 2017 Youth Classes start March 26 at the Clay Art Center in Port Chester and run for 6 weeks. Build your inner artist while creating...

Cost: $120-$180

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
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Sponsor: Clay Art Center
Telephone: 914-937-2047
Contact Name: Nancy Yates
Website »

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The 2017 Westchester Jewish Film Festival opens on March 16 and runs through April 2 at the Jacob Burns Film Center in Pleasantville. this year's festival features 38 films, both documentary...

Cost: varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY  10570
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Sponsor: AJC Westchester/Fairfield and others
Telephone: 914-773-7663424
Contact Name: Abby Popper
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New Moon Events at SunRaven: $30 per person  $25 for couples, or if you bring friends! Join us for the first New Moon of Spring! Aries is the sign of the warrior, action, initiative, and...

Cost: $30 per adult, $10 for children under 10, $50 for couples, $50 for two friends

Where:
SunRaven: The Home of Slow Medicine
501 Guard Hill Road
Bedford, NY  10506
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Sponsor: Slow Medicine
Telephone: 914-218-3113
Contact Name: Tanya Neiman
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This year we feature 38 engaging, thought-provoking, and entertaining films—a robust mix of documentaries and narratives, along with all eight episodes of False Flag, one of the latest...

Cost: Varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Website »

More information

In what is believed to be a first for Westchester theatre, this is a festival celebrating women playwrights and directors with eight original one-act plays. Glass Ceiling Breakers offers a...

Cost: $25 general admission, $20 seniors and students

Where:
Axial Theatre at St. John’s Episcopal Church
8 Sunnyside Avenue
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Telephone: 914 286-7680
Website »

More information

Last Days of Pangea: In the Footsteps of Dinosaurs November 19, 2016 - July 16, 2017 Image: Cast skull of Postosuchus, one of the largest carnivorous reptiles during the late Triassic, 200...

Cost: $7 adult, $6 Senior/student, under 5 and member free

Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Drive
Greenwich, CT  06878
View map »


Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Website »

More information

Clay Art Center Spring Youth Classes 2017 Spin It! Spring 2017 Youth Classes start March 26 at the Clay Art Center in Port Chester and run for 6 weeks. Build your inner artist while creating...

Cost: $120-$180

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
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Sponsor: Clay Art Center
Telephone: 914-937-2047
Contact Name: Nancy Yates
Website »

More information

The 2017 Westchester Jewish Film Festival opens on March 16 and runs through April 2 at the Jacob Burns Film Center in Pleasantville. this year's festival features 38 films, both documentary...

Cost: varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY  10570
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Sponsor: AJC Westchester/Fairfield and others
Telephone: 914-773-7663424
Contact Name: Abby Popper
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 Sign Up for Auditions Today: Register for Auditions with Denise Simon Acting Coach Website: www.DeniseSimonCoaching.com      Audition Date/Time: Dates:...

Cost: 0

Where:
Westmoreland Sanctuary
260 Chestnut Ridge Rd.
Mount Kisco, NY  10549
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Telephone: 914-666-8448
Contact Name: Westmoreland Sanctuary
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This year we feature 38 engaging, thought-provoking, and entertaining films—a robust mix of documentaries and narratives, along with all eight episodes of False Flag, one of the latest...

Cost: Varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Website »

More information

In what is believed to be a first for Westchester theatre, this is a festival celebrating women playwrights and directors with eight original one-act plays. Glass Ceiling Breakers offers a...

Cost: $25 general admission, $20 seniors and students

Where:
Axial Theatre at St. John’s Episcopal Church
8 Sunnyside Avenue
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Telephone: 914 286-7680
Website »

More information

Last Days of Pangea: In the Footsteps of Dinosaurs November 19, 2016 - July 16, 2017 Image: Cast skull of Postosuchus, one of the largest carnivorous reptiles during the late Triassic, 200...

Cost: $7 adult, $6 Senior/student, under 5 and member free

Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Drive
Greenwich, CT  06878
View map »


Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Website »

More information

Clay Art Center Spring Youth Classes 2017 Spin It! Spring 2017 Youth Classes start March 26 at the Clay Art Center in Port Chester and run for 6 weeks. Build your inner artist while creating...

Cost: $120-$180

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
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Sponsor: Clay Art Center
Telephone: 914-937-2047
Contact Name: Nancy Yates
Website »

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Heather Gaudio Fine Art is pleased to announce “An Inverception,” a site-specific installation created by roster artist Jaq Belcher.   This is the first time the gallery will...

Cost: Free

Where:
Heather Gaudio Fine Art
66 Elm Street
New Canaan, CT  06840
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Sponsor: Heather Gaudio Fine Art
Telephone: (2030801-9590
Contact Name: Rachael Palacios
Website »

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The 2017 Westchester Jewish Film Festival opens on March 16 and runs through April 2 at the Jacob Burns Film Center in Pleasantville. this year's festival features 38 films, both documentary...

Cost: varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY  10570
View map »


Sponsor: AJC Westchester/Fairfield and others
Telephone: 914-773-7663424
Contact Name: Abby Popper
Website »

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Westchester Community is in need of more than 40 foster homes to provide the county’s most vulnerable children with housing in a safe and stable environment. Come to this open house...

Cost: Free

Where:
Dole Community Center
250 South 6th Ave
Mount Vernon , NY  10550
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Sponsor: United Way of Westchester and Putnam
Telephone: 914- 997-6700 ex 752
Contact Name: Pat Anderson
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On March 31st at the Hyatt Regency Greenwich, Pacific House is hosting a spectacular evening that will entice chocolate and music lovers alike.  The ninth annual Pacific House Dessert and...

Cost: $50

Where:
Hyatt Regency Greenwich
1800 E. Putnam Avenue
Old Greenwich, CT  06870
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Sponsor: Pacific House
Telephone: 917-563-2435
Contact Name: Sloane Spanierman
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Spend the evening with award-winning poet, Spencer Reece, who will be screening the film Voices Beyond the Wall: Twelve Poems from the Murder Capital of the World. The film follows his...

Cost: Free

Where:
Grace Farms
365 Lukes Wood Road
New Canaan, CT  06840
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Sponsor: Grace Farms Foundation
Telephone: 203-920-1702
Contact Name: Regan Hayes
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This year we feature 38 engaging, thought-provoking, and entertaining films—a robust mix of documentaries and narratives, along with all eight episodes of False Flag, one of the latest...

Cost: Varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Website »

More information

In what is believed to be a first for Westchester theatre, this is a festival celebrating women playwrights and directors with eight original one-act plays. Glass Ceiling Breakers offers a...

Cost: $25 general admission, $20 seniors and students

Where:
Axial Theatre at St. John’s Episcopal Church
8 Sunnyside Avenue
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Telephone: 914 286-7680
Website »

More information

Last Days of Pangea: In the Footsteps of Dinosaurs November 19, 2016 - July 16, 2017 Image: Cast skull of Postosuchus, one of the largest carnivorous reptiles during the late Triassic, 200...

Cost: $7 adult, $6 Senior/student, under 5 and member free

Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Drive
Greenwich, CT  06878
View map »


Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Website »

More information

Clay Art Center Spring Youth Classes 2017 Spin It! Spring 2017 Youth Classes start March 26 at the Clay Art Center in Port Chester and run for 6 weeks. Build your inner artist while creating...

Cost: $120-$180

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
View map »


Sponsor: Clay Art Center
Telephone: 914-937-2047
Contact Name: Nancy Yates
Website »

More information

Heather Gaudio Fine Art is pleased to announce “An Inverception,” a site-specific installation created by roster artist Jaq Belcher.   This is the first time the gallery will...

Cost: Free

Where:
Heather Gaudio Fine Art
66 Elm Street
New Canaan, CT  06840
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Sponsor: Heather Gaudio Fine Art
Telephone: (2030801-9590
Contact Name: Rachael Palacios
Website »

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The 2017 Westchester Jewish Film Festival opens on March 16 and runs through April 2 at the Jacob Burns Film Center in Pleasantville. this year's festival features 38 films, both documentary...

Cost: varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY  10570
View map »


Sponsor: AJC Westchester/Fairfield and others
Telephone: 914-773-7663424
Contact Name: Abby Popper
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The annual Bedford Spring Antiques Show, now in its 32nd year, will take place on Saturday April 1st and Sunday April 2nd at the Harvey School in Katonah. The Bedford Spring Antiques Show is...

Cost: $15

Where:
The Harvey School
260 Jay Street
Katonah , NY  10536
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Sponsor: St. Matthew’s Episcopal Church
Telephone: (914) 234-9636

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Social Security benefits are not fixed or set in stone. There are over 500 ways to claim your benefits, and over 2700 rules for claiming Social Security benefits. Ralph S. Adorno, C.L.U. is an...

Cost: Free

Where:
Pound Ridge Library
271 Westchester Avenue
Pound Ridge, NY  10576
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Sponsor: Pound Ridge Library
Telephone: 914-764-5085
Contact Name: Pound Ridge Library
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This year we feature 38 engaging, thought-provoking, and entertaining films—a robust mix of documentaries and narratives, along with all eight episodes of False Flag, one of the latest...

Cost: Varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Website »

More information

In what is believed to be a first for Westchester theatre, this is a festival celebrating women playwrights and directors with eight original one-act plays. Glass Ceiling Breakers offers a...

Cost: $25 general admission, $20 seniors and students

Where:
Axial Theatre at St. John’s Episcopal Church
8 Sunnyside Avenue
Pleasantville, NY
View map »


Telephone: 914 286-7680
Website »

More information

The Bedford Hills Farmers’ Market, a project of the community group Bedford Hills LIVE, is unveiling its Second Annual Winter Farmers’ Market on Saturday, November 5 beginning at 10am....

Cost: Free

Where:
Bedford Hills Train Station
Depot Plaza
Bedford Hills, NY  10507
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Telephone: 917.951.3588
Contact Name: Vanessa Pahucki

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Last Days of Pangea: In the Footsteps of Dinosaurs November 19, 2016 - July 16, 2017 Image: Cast skull of Postosuchus, one of the largest carnivorous reptiles during the late Triassic, 200...

Cost: $7 adult, $6 Senior/student, under 5 and member free

Where:
Bruce Museum
1 Museum Drive
Greenwich, CT  06878
View map »


Sponsor: Bruce Museum
Website »

More information

Clay Art Center Spring Youth Classes 2017 Spin It! Spring 2017 Youth Classes start March 26 at the Clay Art Center in Port Chester and run for 6 weeks. Build your inner artist while creating...

Cost: $120-$180

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
View map »


Sponsor: Clay Art Center
Telephone: 914-937-2047
Contact Name: Nancy Yates
Website »

More information

Heather Gaudio Fine Art is pleased to announce “An Inverception,” a site-specific installation created by roster artist Jaq Belcher.   This is the first time the gallery will...

Cost: Free

Where:
Heather Gaudio Fine Art
66 Elm Street
New Canaan, CT  06840
View map »


Sponsor: Heather Gaudio Fine Art
Telephone: (2030801-9590
Contact Name: Rachael Palacios
Website »

More information

The 2017 Westchester Jewish Film Festival opens on March 16 and runs through April 2 at the Jacob Burns Film Center in Pleasantville. this year's festival features 38 films, both documentary...

Cost: varies

Where:
Jacob Burns Film Center
364 Manville Road
Pleasantville, NY  10570
View map »


Sponsor: AJC Westchester/Fairfield and others
Telephone: 914-773-7663424
Contact Name: Abby Popper
Website »

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Looking for something relaxing, creative and fun to do this Winter/Spring for the whole family. Take part in Clay Art Center’s Saturday Drop-In Clay Class, Saturdays from...

Cost: $25

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
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Telephone: 914-937-2047
Contact Name: Nancy Yates
Website »

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Clay Art Center is pleased to present REVISIT: The Boneyard Featuring works by 40 internationally acclaimed ceramic artists who have taught workshops at Clay Art Center over the last 60...

Cost: 0

Where:
Clay Art Center
40 Beech Street
Port Chester, NY  10573
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Telephone: 914-937-2047
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